np, i’m home sick today and just laying in bed. and i really don’t mind discussing these things. <3
yeah, if the argument is that in a better future we would have no need to identify ourselves among women, i guess i still don’t like it? i have no problem with being a trans woman. i like trans women, i think we’re great. i like being very out as trans because it means that at my job, the trans youth i work with know that they can talk to me about transition.
hiii this is a topic/problem that i think about a lot, and one that i feel has no immanent resolution, and i feel ~okay about it. so i’m ready/excited to discuss!
i am a trans woman and i, in a sense, believe in bending the arc of our social experiences toward gender abolition. however i like all the things you say! i find it really absurd the way that the more popular discourses around the idea(l) of abolition tend to move … like terf’s and men don’t know how to think, or something. and many many anarchists are frustratingly short-sighted.
i suppose the biggest reason that i position myself as an abolitionist re: gender (among other things) is because i really fucking resent the reality that, by fact that i’m trans and not cis, i have had to struggle 1000% harder to make sense of my world and withstand more abuse and threat of violence. and this is definitely something that trans women share with most/all cis women! AND NOT something that trans men share with cis men! the beginning of gender as a concept/reality, as far as we can tell, developed correlatively with the development of filiative societies, a phenomenon which has only benefited men, as it was ingeniously designed to do. i simply cannot believe that a system of gendered relations can be constructed that will benefit women — trans and cis alike.
the problem that i have with most people who identify as gender abolitionists appear not to have considered that gender is a system that we have been constructing since humans sought shelter from wilderness itself. that men are seen as the “protectors” of women holds a mirror up to this ongoing development. the inertia is still so strong in favor of upholding gender norms that, pragmatically speaking, seeking the abolition of gender within our lifetime or the next doesn’t make any sense, and will naturally leave women, especially those who are trans, of color, disabled, and/or poor, who already lacking in resources, more vulnerable than before. a tipped scale remains tipped. i don’t understand how anyone who posits themselves as an abolitionist hasn’t considered it as being a project probably w/o end? for me, i take this position as providing myself with a guiding light; however it is one that bends with time.
anyway i have to go work now!
i mean, this is where i’m saying that the gender abolition argument is ahistorical. off the top of my head:
i’m pretty resentful of the way things are too, but i just can’t see how gender abolition is a viable strategy or desirable future. if it doesn’t seem likely, and doesn’t lead to strategic behavior now, and imagines a world where all cultures have been reduced to a single world culture, then it just seems like a justification for bad behaviors in the present in the name of a utopia that, frankly, strikes me as nightmarish.