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anima-insomnum asked:

Hellooo! Firstly I like your post and you, and secondly, is skysquid the same as Flying Squid? :D heve a great time :3

hi back!  thanks!  i don’t know what flying squid is, is that a thing?  skysquids is a name i picked based on this dream i had.  i dreamed that it was raining this inky rain, and when i looked up there was this enormous squid like swimming/flying in the sky.  and it loved me.  i felt totally loved and joyful in the dream - which, usually if i dream about a deity i feel antagonistic towards it.  so that’s where i got the name.

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transmisogyny is patriarchy

morguenightmares:

landmerbabe:

skysquids:

fear and hatred of trans women is absolutely central to patriarchy. it underlies the most common acts of homophobia - every time someone gets called a faggot or bashed for being an effeminate male. it underlies the violent construction…

You made an extremely good post that destroyed their original argument. That’s why they got mad. Their response also shows that liberal feminism focuses so much on the individual and is so highly individualized that’s any criticism is taken as a personal attack.

you misread what i wrote, ignored my response and then declared victory after a squabble with somebody i don’t know.  cool story.

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Anonymous asked:

snarkytransman recently said he believes that identity is a fixed force (citing David Reimer) but still seems to think that it's not possible to have an identity different than your asab without having dysphoria.

i don’t know who that is, but it sounds like someone who really enjoys splitting hairs.

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Anonymous asked:

trans medicalists confuse me even more now

i can understand wanting to conceptualize it as a medical thing.  like, then its not your fault, people aren’t supposed to be mad at you about it, you should be entitled to treatment, fancy authorities can verify that your feelings are real, ect.

that’s not really how i think about it.  i think the medical angle is useful for getting treatment that we obviously need, but i also think that everyone should have access to the medical treatment that they need.  i’m less interested in why people are trans and more interested in how they treat people and how we get treated.

transmisogyny is patriarchy

gynecomastodon:

skysquids:

captainfreeball:

skysquids:

genderpopo:

skysquids:

fear and hatred of trans women is absolutely central to patriarchy. it underlies the most common acts of homophobia - every time someone gets called a faggot or bashed for being an effeminate male. it underlies the violent construction of masculinity - the orders to man up, don’t…

I like how simply not supporting transwomen is enough to qualify someone as a misotransgynist. So if someone is completely neutral, just doesn’t give a shit one way or another about transwomen, that means they’re upholding the patriarchy and qualify as a bigot?

You know who equates indifference with hatred? Narcissists.

“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor” – Desmond Tutu

The level of ignorance is just staggering.

i know, right?  thinking that you can just be ‘neutral’ about widespread social oppression.

“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.” 
- Elie Wiesel, Narcissist

"The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it."
- Albert Einstein, Full of Himself

"Science may have found a cure for most evils; but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all — the apathy of human beings."
- Helen Keller, Egomaniac

“So much attention is paid to the aggressive sins, such as violence and cruelty and greed with all their tragic effects, that too little attention is paid to the passive sins, such as apathy and laziness, which in the long run can have a more devastating effect.”
- Eleanore Roosevelt, Vain Crybaby

 

skysquids asked:

i think the pint i'm making is more complicated than the one you're responding to. you can read the notes on that post you reblogged, or you can call me an idiot. your call.

autistictrans:

ok i read the thing u added to it and it still doesnt make sense because trans women are literally the only people victimized by transmisogyny. thats sorta why its called transmisogyny??? like yea it is transphobia and misogyny and those are both also used by cis men but implying that cis women and trans women both experience transmisogyny is like saying white women and black women both experience racism. if you can tell me how exactly your explanation makes sense then please do so

well, if you’d like we could call those effects like, splash from transmisogyny.  or i could talk a lot about how colonialist destruction of nonwhite gender systems underlies transmisogyny in western culture.  there’s a lot we could get into in trying to contextualize transmisogyny into a larger system.  the ask that that anon sent me could probably have been more precise, and i could have jumped down their throat for not using exactly the language i would have.  or, i could acknowledge the point they were making and overlook the word choice for the sake of the larger argument.  internet debates tend to get really, really hung up on precise language - and to some extent that’s fine.  but i think there’s also something to be said for trying to understand what someone means and responding to that.  i think that is another way to do active listening - rather than doing a line by line analysis.

i’m sure i could make something up:  ”the systems that give rise to transmisogyny are rooted in racism such that black cis women are often attacked with the same language that is leveled at me as a white trans woman.”  or i could just hear what that anon was saying and respond to that point in context.  i know that tumblr tends to decontexualize conversations spread over multiple posts, but that’s why i think its a good idea to read people’s blogs, read the notes on the posts, and try to hear what people are saying.

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Anonymous asked:

also, it's often specifically cis women of color (esp black and latina women) who are victimized by transmisogyny, bc they don't fit white eurocentric standards of beauty and femininity. like that time some asshole wrote an article about michelle obama where he called her the t-slur.

skysquids:

absolutely.

i see transmisogyny as a feature of patriarchy.  there are so few of us trans women, but the public hatred of us is so intense.  i think the utility it serves for patriarchy is as a tool to construct normative gender.  i think transmisogyny is used to define and police the limits and meaning of gender in a harsh way within white supremacist capitalist heteropatriarchy.  i don’t think that acknowledging this takes the focus off of trans women, but rather pointing this out can be a way to build solidarity between cis women and trans women.  i think this solidarity is important.  i feel like angela davis made some really good points about this.

like, transmisogyny hurts trans women most directly.  but it is a facet of a larger system.

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

also, it's often specifically cis women of color (esp black and latina women) who are victimized by transmisogyny, bc they don't fit white eurocentric standards of beauty and femininity. like that time some asshole wrote an article about michelle obama where he called her the t-slur.

absolutely.

transmisogyny is patriarchy

valeriekeefe:

skysquids:

valeriekeefe:

skysquids:

fear and hatred of trans women is absolutely central to patriarchy.  it underlies the most common acts of homophobia - every time someone gets called a faggot or bashed for being an effeminate male.  it underlies the violent construction of masculinity - the orders to man up, don’t be a pussy, don’t act ‘like a woman.’  fear of trans women is the specter that our culture congers up to stifle empathy for women in little boys.  it is used to demean and dismiss strong women both cis and trans.

to support transmisogyny, or to fail to support trans women, is to strengthen one of the central pillars of patriarchy.  transmisogyny is a patriarchal act.  it doesn’t matter who is doing it, the effect is to support patriarchy.

How exactly is cissexist misogyny used to demean cis women? Or is this just another callow cisfeminist attempt to enable the appropriation of the struggles of the actually unidirectionally oppressed?

That second one, prolly.

omg am i a callow cis woman now?  i had no idea!  i didn’t even get a surgery for that, how did it happen?  the miracles of tumblr.

its weird that you would pick that one minor point to focus on - almost as if you are more interested in telling me how wrong i am than building any kind of relationship with another trans woman.  have fun with that!

Given the attempt to reference operativity, I think you missed the operative words:

Or is this just another callow *cisfeminist attempt to enable the appropriation* of the struggles of the actually unidirectionally oppressed?

As I’ve been clear before: You don’t need to be cis to be cisfeminist, though you do need to be cis to appropriate. This is why I cited this post as enabling appropriation, which it is. You’re trying to argue that cis women are harmed specifically, you know, instead of privileged, by transmisogyny, (which I tend to like to call cissexist misogyny, because I find it more accurate and more informative) and yes, that is being an agent, an in, in the appropriation of oppression of trans women. And yes, that is wrong.

As to dialogue and sisterhood, you’d have to talk to the people who actually read my tumblr instead of those who read what others have to say about me.

well, i disagree with you.  i see that butch women, strong women, or just women in general, both cis and trans, get called ‘manhands’, ‘mannish’, or get told we look like trans women as an insult.  it shouldn’t be an insult for anyone to ‘look trans’.  so i think that when people shit on us it can splash onto others.  i don’t see how pointing this out threatens us or negates the fact that cis women benefit from transmisogyny.  but like, my whole point is that transmisogyny supports patriarchy and supporting patriarchy hurts women.  i also talked about how transmisogyny is used as a specter to scare boys into shutting down their ability to empathize with women - which hurts young trans women directly, but hurts all women.

like, if you wanna call me a cisfemminist for talking about this go ahead.  i don’t think anything i’m saying has a negative affect on me as a trans women.  i do think its kind of shitty to call a trans woman a cisfeminist for a having slightly different understanding of feminism than you.  i’m not gonna follow your blog because pretty much all of your interactions that i see involve you trying to shut people down rather than trying to build a dialogue or learn what people are saying and why they’re saying it.  good luck with that.

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